Courtney Stone from the United States
July 6 at 12:20 pm
The Lord to reveal to me in how I'm abusing my grandma.
I'm stuck and I need to repent if it.
Responses
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Jose on July 6 at 2:03 pmYou must stay away from difficult people, the distance is on worlds. I live near to difficult old man, beside him, I just live my life without asking questions: "no matter what." Just in an emergency I could wonder: "Everything ok?"
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Jose on July 6 at 1:59 pmIf I allowed this difficult old man to be with me helping him, he will be absurdly unfair, a pain for my soul. Disrespectful, betraying, hurtful. No way. I need to be good.
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Jose on July 6 at 1:51 pmI help a difficult old man, but when we were negotiating this, he said to me "I will collaborate with you. I will be with you side by side," I answered to him a firm "NO!." I will do this ALONE: Give me your orientations before or now if you will. He did. Everything good. I did my part.
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Jose on July 6 at 1:47 pmThe key to deal with difficult people is distance and no communication. Stay away, be distant.
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Jose on July 6 at 1:45 pmYou are welcome Courtney. I have good experience of years dealing with old and difficult people. Just: Respect and distance. Don't let them make you -their life-. Don't be their friend as you do with others. Be on your side. Don't ask to them no-thing on their private lives. Don't talk on your private live. Distance and , treat them with respect, honoring their age.
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Courtney on July 6 at 1:40 pmThank you for the advice
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Jose on July 6 at 1:35 pmIf your grandma has behavioral problems, she shouts and she is bitter... Just try to let her be and stay on your own world. Let her be. Don't interact without needing.
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Jose on July 6 at 1:32 pmJust treat her according to a set of rules: "Hi good morning. How are you grandma?" And live your life. If she ask you, you reply. Talk to her without raising your voice (This is a common fault), if you did, just say : "sorry."
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Jose on July 6 at 1:26 pmRules, this matters Courtney Stone: If people talk, you listen. If people talk and you talk to them without allowing them to express themselves, you are wrong! Just, back up, breath, and look at them: Listen to them until the very end whatsoever they must tell to you. Then you can ask: "Can I say something to you?" Or just say it.
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Jose on July 6 at 1:23 pmYou wrote your grandma is bitter. Don't worry. Education Courtney Stone has rules, I know on it, I read and I was teacher in several things. You must act according to those rules. If you do, don't worry. "Hi. Good morning," you respond: "Hi, good morning."